Learning to Trust Yourself Again 🩷

Self-trust is the quiet foundation of a peaceful life.
It is the knowing that you can rely on yourself to make decisions, to listen inward, to speak up, to rest when needed, and to walk away when something is no longer safe or serving you.

But for many of us, especially those who’ve experienced gaslighting, abandonment, chronic stress, or trauma, that inner trust can feel distant or damaged. You may second-guess your every decision. You may silence your voice to avoid conflict. You may look to others for answers, even when your body is already whispering the truth.

If this sounds like you, please know:
Your self-trust isn’t broken.
It’s just been buried beneath years of self-abandonment, survival, and over-functioning.
And it can be rebuilt gently, consistently, and without shame.

💛 Why Self-Trust Matters

Self-trust is at the heart of everything:

• Your ability to set and hold boundaries

• Your confidence in relationships and work

• Your emotional regulation

• Your resilience during change or uncertainty

• Your ability to say “no” without guilt, and “yes” without fear

When you begin to rebuild that trust, life feels less chaotic. You stop outsourcing your decisions to everyone else. You feel safer in your own skin even when things around you are uncertain.

🌿 How to Rebuild Trust in Yourself

You don’t have to wait for permission. You can begin today, right where you are.

1. Tune into Your Body’s Signals

Your intuition often shows up as subtle physical cues: a tightening in your chest, a clenching of your jaw, a flutter of ease in your stomach. Start noticing what your body is telling you.

Ask:

• Does this feel expansive or restrictive?

• Do I feel calm or anxious in this decision?

• What feels like a full-body yes or a gentle no?

The more you notice and respond to these signals, the louder your inner voice becomes.

2. Practice Micro-Decisions Daily

Rebuild trust by honoring your needs in the small moments, choosing what to eat, when to rest, how to move, or even what to wear.

Ask yourself:

• What do I want right now?

• What feels nourishing, not just convenient?

• What feels like it’s truly for me?

Each time you ask and listen, you send yourself the message: My needs matter. My voice counts.

3. Track Your Inner Wins

Keep a small notebook or notes app where you celebrate moments of self-alignment. When you said no, set a boundary, spoke your truth, or simply chose rest.

This isn’t about perfection, it’s about remembering.
Remembering that you are already showing up for yourself more than you realize.

4. Forgive Past Versions of You

Pheeeewwww I know this one is gonna be the hardest. We all have moments we regret, times we stayed too long, stayed too quiet, or made choices out of fear.

But that version of you did the best she could with what she knew and what she had. Blaming her keeps you stuck.
Forgiving her sets you free. I know it’s difficult but you have to learn to forgive yourself, A LOT I might add.

Speak to yourself gently:
I understand why I made that choice. I was doing my best. Now I know better and I get to choose again.

✨ Self-Trust Is a Practice, Not a Destination

There’s no finish line here. Rebuilding trust is like watering a plant. You return to it daily.

Some days it will bloom, other days it will simply hold steady. And that’s enough.

Your voice matters.
Your wisdom is not lost.
You are still here, and that means your story is still unfolding.

You don’t need to be perfect to be trusted.
You only need to keep choosing yourself, one small decision at a time.